New Year Resolution

Same morning, same sun but brand new hope
New year has begun, no time to mope
Limitless possibilities and so many things you can do
To work on the newer better you before the year is through
Leave yesterday’s disappointments behind
Focus on today with a strong mind
Resolutions could be simple or tough
Sometimes achieving them can get tough
But never give up on what you have to do
Because you promised yourself to be a newer better you

By Preeta Sanjith

 

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New Year Resolution

Same morning, same sun but brand new hope
New year has begun, no time to mope
Limitless possibilities and so many things you can do
To work on the newer better you before the year is through
Leave yesterday’s disappointments behind
Focus on today with a strong mind
Resolutions could be simple or tough
Sometimes achieving them can get tough
But never give up on what you have to do
Because you promised yourself to be a newer better you

By Preeta Sanjith

 

Happy new year

Saying goodbye to the passing year
Air is filled with joy and cheer
Hope is what fills the mind
New beginnings always follow the grind
Year gone by is now a history
Coming year is an exciting mystery
Dreams which were broken
Words which were unspoken
Pain and sorrow are now in past
New year brings joys which will last
Let’s all welcome this new year
Letting go of all our sorrows and fears
Laugh, love , hope and live
Embrace everything the year has to give
Party hard till the break of the light
Old year is ending tonight

By Preeta Sanjith

The Office Bully…

Off late I see many articles on office bullies and there is a fair chance that many could be people in higher positions or bosses.

Before we get into details let’s understand what is bullying?
Bullying is a form of workplace violence. It is an offensive behaviour, a grab for control, and an exercise of power that attempts to undermine an individual through humiliation. Bullying is vindictive, cruel, and malicious conduct that takes the form of verbally, social, psychologically, and/or physically hurting someone. The attacks are unpredictable and irrational.

So that brings us to our next question- why do people bully others in work place? What drives this behaviour in the first place? I believe that such individuals are driven by aggressions, ambitions, insecurities , need to be in control all the time , possibly lack empathy and might even have social skill issues. It could be any of this or multiple of these which ultimately lead to bullying behaviour.

And who could be their targets? Surprisingly not weak individuals but smart minded and ambitious people because these are people who make them feel threatened or small. They go after such people and humiliate them and make them feel weak and insecure because this gives them a sense of being in control or sense is achievement . Typically organisations which breed such behaviour will end up losing good talent over a period of time.

So how does and organisation notice and weed out these bullies? To start with organisations need to realise the difference between individuals contributors and team players. Every individual contributor need not be cut out for a role to lead and grow other individuals. I believe that as people grow to higher ranks specially where people management skills matter- the individuals needs to be critically evaluated on their ability to manage and groom people under them. A person who has not been able to retain resources or show vertical growth of individuals in their team need to be monitored to see if it’s a consistent trend or just a matter of luck. Exit interviews with exiting individuals need to be given serious weightage.

In most the cases bullies are high performers who can switch behaviour from being charming to obnoxious within no time. Now their victims being smart and aspiring individuals would not find such work environment conducive to growth and end up underperforming and eventually leaving the organisation.

Role of organisation and their system of appraisals would play a critical role in averting such behaviours.

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My conversations with my son….

From our house my son’s school is about 5-10 mins walk. The road leading up to the school is usually jam packed with cars during morning hours. Many parents drop their kids by cars till the school gate causing traffic jam.

So today there was a BEST bus stuck and lots of cars were honking incessantly. Now my son hates loud noises and was complaining about how everyone keeps honking all the time in India. Being brought up in Europe he is not used to hearing so much honking.

We were walking with couple of his friends in a group and so one of the mothers in the group asked him – do you want to go back to Europe? And promptly my son replies – no, I would rather make India better. I will teach everyone not to honk so much.

Like always I was stunned- he never fails to amaze me. I keep wondering who learns more- he from me or other way round. Today I learned that complaining and running away doesn’t solve a problem but staying put and changing the situation can make your world a better place wherever you are.

 

 

My conversations with my son….

Today morning I was dropping my son as usual to his school. This is my favourite time of the day when both of us are full of energy and we have nice conversations while walking to school. We talk about varied things ranging from pollution, science, maths and so on.

So today we got into talk about how in winters days get shorter and how it becomes dark earlier these days. To this I was just teasing him saying so lesser time for you to play and me to work. And promptly my son says but so much more time to rest and sleep. So much more time to dream about lovely things.

Needless to say I am amazed – at this age he has a perspective which many adults would lack. My learning from today’s conversation- everything can be viewed from different perspectives and your perspective determines your state of mind and attitude.

I never stop getting amazed with his ability to change my perspective and thoughts.

“ A negative mind will never give you a positive life”

When child becomes a teacher…

Yesterday night I came home from work extremely tired and stressed. My 6 year old son was being unusually naughty and was refusing to complete his nocturnal routine and sleep. It was way beyond his sleeping time and he had school the next day . So I ended up yelling at him. He went quite and then suddenly looked deeply into my eyes and said, “ Mom that wasn’t necessary. I don’t think I appreciate the way you spoke to me”

For a moment I forgot who was an adult between the two of us.I was shocked and happy to see his controlled and dignified reaction. I was so proud of him. I think he teaches me to be a better parent and a better person everyday.

I hugged him and apologised for my behaviour and he simply hugged me back and said it’s ok Mom- I know you are very tired. I know you love me a lot and I love you too. And within moments he cuddled up and slept in my arms peacefully.

Two lessons I learned from him yesterday- however tired or stressed you might be , control your responses before you hurt others. Words hurt and once said they cannot be retracted . So choose your reactions carefully and second one was let go easily- not for other because it brings peace to you.