To be hounded or not to be

Recently I had an interesting debate/discussion in one of the many whatsapp groups that I am a part of. This one was the whatsapp group for building residents. Ours is a huge complex housing over 900 residents- one of those modern condos which have sprung up in the city with all kinds of amenities like gyms, tennis court, football court and so on. In our complex we have all kinds of interesting mix of people living- some are business owners, some are CEO’s and even celebrities. So the debate started off with this celebrity (Mr. X) who’s very famous and lives in our complex- star attraction of our complex.

The debate sparked off with an interview which Mr. X recently gave in one of the popular tabloids. He was complaining about not having any private space to himself. Even in the place which is his home (our complex) he is hounded by people even while playing football with kids. So immediately two groups formed one defending him saying that he is right and everyone has right to personal space and another group which thought that this is bound to happen given the profession he is in.

I personally am of  the opinion that life and the way it shapes up is dependent on choices that you makes in life. I chose to be an entrepreneur and this decision comes with its own set of consequences. Life is not easy as a start up entrepreneur, you are a one woman army many times- I couple as delivery woman, washer woman and so on.But I am not complaining since this is a life I chose for myself. Imagine a doctor refusing to answer calls in middle of the night saying this is impeaching on his personal time. He wouldn’t be being extremely fair to his profession and maybe won’t be so successful in longer run.

So when I read the article I thought to myself, if I were a celebrity and no one hounded me at all it would be fairly alarming for me. Maybe I would start doubting my celebrity status. It is people who watch movies and make stars who they are. And one of the aspects of being in such a glamorous profession is being hounded. It’s as much a part of actors life as it is for a doctor to be hounded at night and for a entrepreneur to do everything. Then why do we crib when we are faced with consequences of our choices.

Every choice we make in life would naturally have positive and negative consequences. One of the positive consequences of an actor’s life is the fame and money which comes with it. So when Mr. X enjoys the fruit of positive consequences why should he shy away from the negative consequence – having less privacy and being hounded. When making choices in life we often forget that we should be responsible for everything that comes along with that choice.

Anyways our debate did not have any conclusive answer. But what do you guys think? Please do leave a comment – would love to know thoughts on this one.

 

 

One room kitchen

Neha watched helplessly was Pramod collapsed on the floor. He was breathing heavily and was sweating profusely.She didn’t know what to do ,so she ran down the corridor and tried knocking Mr. Kapoor’s door but no one had answered the doorbell. She tried calling all her high society friends but all of them had excuses and some promised to come but still hadn’t arrived. Today Pramod had lost  his job and all the money he had ever made. His boss had committed a fraud in the company and Pramod was also implicated in it.The news had splashed across all media and had come as a shock to Pramod. As she was wondering what to do she suddenly remembered her childhood friend Kusum. She lived in a small colony nearby. Though they had been best friends in childhood they hardly talked now despite of living so close by.

Her mind went back to her childhood. Kusum and Neha were neighbours. They were best of friends and did everything together. Neha was ambitious and dreamt of moving to big city to study further. However Kusum was very homely and simple. She had very small aspirations and dreams. As the grew up their friendship also blossomed. Their nature’s complemented each other perfectly. Kusum was not jealous of Neha ever.In fact she always helped Neha balance out her decisions. After college Neha went to Mumbai for further studies. But she and Kusum were always in touch. Neha confided in Kusum about all her wild doings- the drinking parties she had, her boyfriends. In Mumbai Neha met Pramod , Kusum was the first one to know that Neha was in love. He wasn’t from their community, it was Kusum who had helped convince her parents to get her married.

Kusum’s parents were not as modern or well to do as Neha’s . After she had graduated they had found a good match for her and got her married. Ajay was a simple boy who worked as a school teacher in Mumbai. Kusum was very excited to move to Mumbai because it meant that she would be closer to Neha. However off late Neha’s calls and mails had become irregular. On reaching Mumbai, Kusum excitedly called Neha but she only got a lukewarm response. Neha didn’t seem as excited to meet her as Kusum was. Anyways Kusum put this thought aside.

Kusum and Ajay lived in a small apartment in a colony in Vile Parle. Their one room kitchen might be small but Kusum was very happy.Though he didn’t make a lot of money he was very kind hearted. Kusum lived a very mediocre life but she was extremely content in her small world. Neha on the other hand lived in a plush 3 BHK apartment in Bandra. Pramod had done well for himself and was rising the corporate ladders. As both of them climed in status, friendship with Kusum started to feel awkward.

Couple times when they had gone to meet Kusum at her place had been painful. Pramod turned his nose up at the narrow lanes as he maneuvered his BMW. Neha was cringing at the sight of garbage can right across the lane. Kusum had prepared an elaborate lunch to welcome Neha. But Pramod cribbed about sitting on the floor and eating. Neha took wipes out and started to clean the plates and spoons. Kusum was heartbroken. She couldn’t believe it was her best friend Neha. Kusum was a good cook so the meal was very tasty but Pramod commented on the oil saying it wasn’t healthy. Pramod kept taunting them about their tiny 1 room kitchen flatAfter that slowly Kusum and Neha drifted away. Neha immersed herself in her high society world while Kusum was happy in her small world too. Kusum missed Neha but Neha had drifted far apart.

Suddenly sound of Pramod screaming pulled Neha back to present. She was ashamed to call Kusum after the way she had treated her.With great hesitation Neha mustered courage to call her. Phone was ringing but no one seemed to be answering.She was wondering if Kusum would ever attend her calls. Just as she was about to disconnect she heard her friend’s voice. In midst of her sobs she told Kusum what had happened. Kusum had read about the scam in papers in the morning and was wanting to call Neha but she hadn’t. Kusum asked her to be calm. “I’ll be there in 10 minutes, till then you keep rubbing his chest”. She woke her husband Ajay and told him about the call.Both of them called an ambulance, asked the Pramila aunty in the neighborhood to come and sleep with the kids and left for Neha’s place.

On seeing them Neha felt a sense of relief wash over her. Never had she felt so lonely and deserted as she had in past few hours. The ambulance arrived and Pramod was shifted to the hospital. He had experienced a cardiac arrest. Ajay did the entire running about right from making sure Pramod was attended by doctors to getting medicines for him.Through the night Kusum held Neha’s hand and sat right with her. Finally as dawn broke out doctors told Neha that Pramod was out of danger but he would be in hospital for a few days under observation.Neha had no words to thank Kusum. She hugged her and said ” I am sorry Kusum. I chased the rainbow thinking there is a treasure at other end. I forget real treasure is in relationships we make. Please forgive me”. Kusum wiped her tears and hugged her and said” Friends are always there to help you. I will leave my kids to school and be back with lunch”

Over the next few days Ajay and Kusum went all out to help Neha and Pramod. Today Pramod was getting discharged. Ajay had just finished completing all the formalities for his discharge. Pramod and Neha were peniless now. So Ajay and Kusum put them up in their house till they sorted their lives.Today Pramod had found a new job and rented a small apartment nearby. As they were leaving Pramod looked at Ajay with his eyes moist with gratitude and held his hand and said. ” I kept mocking at your 1 room kitchen but your one 1 room kitchen is far bigger than my apartment. Thank you for everything”. Ajay looked at him and said, ” I don’t want thanks.  I am glad to have helped”. Pramod looked at him and said, “However big I become, I will always have a one room kitchen to help someone in need”

 

 

 

 

Lessons from my entrepreneurial journey!!

When I launched my venture about a couple of years ago, so many well wishers and friends told me that “age” is not on my side and this wasn’t the best time in my life to start something of my own. There have been times in this journey when I wanted to believe that as well but I am glad I didn’t. My journey as an entrepreneur has been quite exciting & has taught me many lessons. Today as I expand the geographic reach of my business I look back at the journey and i know its not been easy and its far from being over. I still have a long way to go.What differentiates a successful entrepreneur from a failed one? Few things which I have learned in this journey. But we always wonder what sets apart a successful entrepreneur from a unsuccessful one. Is there some formula which we can apply to ensure success. Some of the insights which I have learned from my entrepreneurial journey

  1. It’s never too late to pursue what you believe in– Life experiences bring depth that the the young might not be able to see. As they say experience is the best teacher and it can be used to your advantage. So don’t let age and life stage be an excuse to pursue your dreams
  2. Take baby steps – Take small risks, its easier to absorb losses when you have taken smaller risks. Also this helps you plan and execute strategies better. I started with a very small area and investment before I went out to increase my geographic reach.
  3. Love what you do – If you are passionate about what you are doing, persistence will follow. It’s very important to believe and love what you are doing. I think its my passion to make the venture succeed which has lead me where I am today. There have been times in past years when I wanted to shut it down but my passion in the idea and belief that it would work kept me going.
  4. Your attitude matters– Your attitude will set a tone for your business. If you are negative and lazy, it will flow down to the team. Make sure you are all that you want your team to be.
  5. Be ready to dirty your hands– To make any business successful you need to be willing to do anything that it requires. I have been a delivery boy, tagging expert and even personally washed clothes. The more you dirty your hands the more insight you gain into your business. You cannot be a good boss unless you know how to do it yourself.
  6. Listen to your customers– Its very important to keep in constant touch with customers and understand what they want. After all your bread and butter comes from them. So its important to keep listening to customers even when you are growing larger in size.
  7. Be flexible and adaptable– I started as a online laundry but eventually realized that customers preferred retail outlets to pure online presence. I changed myself to a omni- channel player and it worked well for me. Evolving strategies as you go along is very crucial to business success.
  8. Look out for opportunities– As a small business owner I keep looking for opportunities to collaborate with other businesses, low cost marketing opportunities. You will be amazed at what all opportunities can come your way if you are open to looking out for them.
  9.  Business is about making money– As many as customers you might acquire its important to make money on every transaction that you do. So right from the beginning keep that as a primary business goal. With VC’s funding businesses its easy to lose track of this primary business goal
  10. Be ready to accept failure and exit– Knowing when to call quits is very important for any business. Not everything you try will be successful and knowing when to let go will ensure that you cut your losses short.
  11. Listen to you gut– Sometimes you will have the facts and figures pointing in one direction but your instinct might be telling you something else. Trust your instinct. Sometimes spreadsheets are based on certain assumptions and hypothesis and might not be entirely accurate. So learn to listen to your gut.

 

Power of “P” in our life

Over a past few years in my life I have realized that the most important key to being successful is neither hard work nor intelligence but perseverance. In our instant-gratification, short-attention-span, multitasking world, we’ve lost sight of one core element of high achievement- ability to keep going on when all others give up. It comes from being committed to your goal, and from believing in yourself and in your goal’s possibility.  It borrows strength from resilience and optimism and brushes elbows with courage along the way.

It reminds me of the movie “Forrest Gump” – maybe declared as low IQ but the he had persistence to reach his goals. He had almost blind and single minded dedication to whatever task he took in his hands. Prodding along when nothing seems to be going your way is not easy. Your brain keep telling you to quit but if you persist success will surely come your way.There’s an old adage that says you can’t defeat a man who refuses to quit, and it’s as true today as when the words were first uttered.

Nothing has made me realize the value of perseverance more than running my own venture. It started with a dream and passion but as I launched the venture and got it running, at every step of the way I faced multiple challenges. There have been multiple times in past few  years when I wished I could simply shut it down and revert back to comfort of doing a job. But I persisted and I am glad I did. When I look back now I realize that the persistence has paid off.

Work or personal life persistence is a key to achieving your goals. “When the going gets tough, the tough get going”. So let’s get going and make our dreams a reality.

Story of a work addict

I started working with great joy

But now I can just sit and sigh

Presentation is due to client now

Errors in the data…Holy cow!!!

Why does one need to work

I need some motivation, I need some perk

Client is very sad….Boss is very mad

Working late into the night…that’s the story of my life

I started working with great joy

But now I can just sit and sigh

My ambition

When I was born and was still tiny and wee

My mother felt she saw a “doctor” in me

I was still not out quite out of my diapers

But aspirations my mom had could not be tampered

My father had some other plans in his mind though

In my hand swings he saw moves of “tennis pro”

But since to everyone’s eyes I was as cute as kitten

My granny thought I could be a “star” with whom everyone was smitten

My sister thought I could break into a song & sing in glee

But a little problem was I was really couldn’t find the right key

My my I was still barely out of my baby crib

And the family had decided what I would be when I was big

Wonder if anyone will ask me what I want to be

Flying in the sky as a bird wild and free

Little girl

 

As I look into the mirror

A little girl stares back at me

Her eyes twinkling eyes shining so bright

Wind is blowing her hair nice and free

Running free like a child she makes a pretty sight

Her lips twitched into a naughty smile

Radiant face brimming with life

Her eyes shine with unfulfilled dreams

No worries no fear no signs of strife

I am mesmerized by her innocence

I want to hold her back and ask her so many questions

But in a blink of eye she goes away

I really admire her spirit- so joyful and free as i remember her wistfully

Suddenly I realize that she is none other than “younger me

 

 

Gossip, Gushup and Girls

No better therapy than a heartfelt chat with your girlfriends. After planning for one whole year, we actual decided to catch up. Of course I wasn’t sure it would happen till it actually happened. A lovely Sunday afternoon spent on 7 hours of non-stop chit chatting and light banter. I came back all refreshed with energy of a teenager suddenly- I was feeling alive and invigorated.

Set me wondering what was so special about yesterday. What struck me was that somewhere in my day to day routine I get so wrapped around in playing different roles- role of a mother, role of a wife, role of an entrepreneur I forget all about the little girl inside me. This little girl wants to enjoy, giggle at silly nothings, eat without worrying about weight- she wants to be free for a short time. And yesterday’s meeting with my girl friends unlocked and set that little girl free.

None of us discussed our problems, our issues – instead we discussed all trivia. We reminisced about our college days and just gossiped to our hearts content. This is exactly the kind of break I needed from routine.

I have promised myself that wherever I am and however busy or stressful my life gets- I will take time out to meet my girl friends every once in a while. It might be brief meeting but I think I owe it to the little girl still trapped somewhere inside me to spend time on girls, gossip and gupshup.

Life can get hard and stressful every once in a while but it is these small moments which make you cherish life.

“Let’s swear each with our pinky
We’ll be the best of friends
Until we are old and wrinkly!”

 

 

Stepping out in the world!!!

As I sat in the plane ready to take off it all started to sink in finally. The enormity of my decision dawned on me. Few months ago when I gave an interview for a job in Dubai just for fun, little did I know that my life would change so drastically in a matter of couple months.

As the youngest member in the family I have always led a very protected life. Having a sibling who was 8 years older to me I was totally cocooned against all evil in this world. My only experience of being alone were the school picnics to Aarey Milk Colony or Fantasy Land. In my 25 years of existence I had never had an opportunity to travel or stay alone. I know sounds impossible but then that was me. Needless to say I was always thrilled at the idea of staying in a hostel or being alone. I envied all my b- school friends who lived in the hostel away from family. They always seemed to be having fun and parties.

So when  a consultant called me with an opportunity to work in Dubai, I grabbed it with eagerness and enthusiasm which couldn’t be compared. Getting the offer letter was the easier part of the battle, convincing my family was the toughest thing I have ever done (so i thought back then….of course being a parent now my definition of tough things has changed). But finally I was off…to limitless possibilities, freedom. I was super excited and time flew rapidly all in flurry of activities. I barely got time to think- visa process, shopping, winding off my work here there were list of endless activities which needed to be done.

But as I sat in the plane myriad of thoughts were whizzing in my head. For the first time in life I was going to be all alone. I knew no one in Dubai and had no one to call on in case of any trouble.I was sorely missing my family – my mom and dad and my sister. I wanted to run back to them. Of course there was excitement as well – of a new life and new adventure which awaited me but there was underlying sense of fear and anxiety.

Today when I look back I am glad I embarked on that adventure. Dubai will always be special to me- its a city which gave me a lot- lot of friends, lot of learnings and my husband. Working and living in Dubai was the best thing that could have happened to me. It made me resilient and independent. Its a city which taught me to love new adventures. Its a city which made a woman out of this girl.

 

Dreams and Desires

I have my dreams and my desires

Want to set this world on fire
I know you laugh, you mock
But my dreams you cant block
Maybe they seem a little impossible
Hardwork &  dedication will make them feasible
I know my path is not very easy
This thought doesnt make me uneasy
Achieving them will make me exhausted and creamed
But I will never let go of my dreams
Set me free and let me fly
Even if i fail, let me try
I have my dreams and my desires
Let me set this world on fire